Have you ever experienced true love? That love that surpasses mere infatuation? If you have, good for you. If you haven't, I'm sure the wise would tell you to wait for it. As the old saying goes, "true love only comes once," although I've often found myself questioning the validity of this quote. I asked a few people whose admitted to experiencing this kind of "one time love", if they believed that it could only happen once and what I found was that their answer lied in their perception of what true love really was. When you here the expression "true love," it's usually referring to a very intense affection for someone that goes beyond the superficial. True love doesn't place unnecessary requirements on their supposed love one or constantly critique or try to correct or change them. But this kind of love grows naturally and isn't inflated by calculated moves. Some may even say that this love doesn't need to be taught but with time is born.
Admitting, I must say that experiencing that genuine kind of affection for someone isn't a common occurrence that happens every go round. For instance, some may find themselves dating and getting in and out of relationships time and time again and not ever make it to Holy Matrimony. They may like the person, care deeply for them, but never to the point where they're utterly and completely satisfied. I guess that's where the calculated love comes into play. They constantly find themselves trying new things and experimenting here and there, not to keep the fire blazing, but because they're afraid without it, they'll fall apart. There are couples who really do share deep feelings for one another but yet never reach the point of complete gratification after making attempts to rekindle that flame that they experienced with their "true love".
I've loved. I've loved to the point of tears and past the point of fears. I've loved while extremely happy and equivalently when angry. I didn't ask for anything beyond who he was because I loved him for who he already was. This love didn't come with adjustments but patience because I wanted to grow with him and each step that we'd take, we would be taking it together. I've also experienced having only deep affection for someone and that involved work. We needed to go out a certain amount of times a month. We needed to be intimate three or four times out of the week. Anything outside that, then we would fall apart because the things that were holding us together were extremely calculated. We each had mandates on one another whether it was body measurements or financial, we needed to adhere to the invisible contract or our invisible and makeshift love would soon dissipate. Again, some love was there, but just not enough to survive. Imagine living in a time when communities shared their belongings and the need for money wasn't as dire to survive. Would that person that you're with suffice? We often dress love in things that we can't build a foundation on.
I do believe that this kind of love doesn't happen everyday, but it is definitely possible to experience more than once. Timing and patience is everything when you're looking for the real. Have you ever experienced "true love," and do you believe that it can happen more than once?