When To Let Go

It ain't easy letting go of the one you loved. Yes I said ain't in order to convey my exact sentiment.  So even with my grammatical narcissism in high gear I'll continue writing. I received a phone call yesterday from someone I once loved. While listening to his voice through voicemail I tried examining his sincerity. Did he really miss me or was his ego sending him into overdrive due to the distance that I'd established between us? Had he made the changes that we'd spoken about so that we could coexist? After doing a mental audit I began to deviate from the road leading back down  memory lane. Although there's a certain level of flattery that accompanies an old flame reaching out, when the feelings are no longer there, clarity abounds. With that being said, sometimes it's better to just let things go entirely. And I'm not just referring to the person but the very thought of that person and all of the "what ifs." If one has truly moved on then what would be the objective in staying connected? I know not everyone will agree with this but your future Mr. or Mrs. might.

Just sharing a personal experience.  Do you feel that is beneficial to keep active/open communication with an ex that you at one point had deep feelings for?

Davina S.