Have you ever met your supposedly Mr. or Mrs. Right at the wrong time? Sure you have! We all have. We've waited long and hard to find that one person that possesses the 80% that we just know we can stretch into 100% but then we're hit with the age old excuse that, 'they're just not ready.' Indecisiveness at it's finest. So we date just to avoid the pain staking reality that the person who we truly want to date is playing around or who is most commonly, just not interested. And that's okay. But what's not okay is never telling the emotionally vested person that you're just not interested in pursuing anything further than a friendship. Why is it so hard for the uninterested party to just say so?
Majority of the time, it can simply be attributed to selfishness. You're satisfying a portion of what they are desiring at that particular moment and because they have more than likely made you aware of the fact that there's no chance of a romantic future together, they'll continue using you until either they get bored, find what they truly want, or YOU leave. That is always an option. It has been said time and time again that if a person wants to be with you, they will. Point blank. Don't try and make excuses for them. When you know that your feelings are involved, don't then create mechanisms to deal with the constant pain of rejection, but eliminate it. That's not saying that you have to be cruel or mean to that person, just make them aware of how you're feeling and express the need to distance yourself from the situation. Under no circumstances should you allow yourself to be continuously hurt in exchange for someone else's pleasure.
In the end, you have to do what's best for you. In the case of a relationship, if someone wants to be with you, they will. If they don't, they won't. There's no mean time in between time. Guard your heart and walk away. You deserve so much more. No your worth.
Have you ever heard the saying that "one hurdle leads to the next?" In life we find ourselves facing different types of hurdles, one of them being mediocrity. We sometimes get so settled in one place in life that we lose ambition to move outside of our comfort zone. My advise for you today is to simply move! Revisit your list of new year goals that you once wanted to accomplish and dust off all of those unfinished projects that you put to the side because you lost your focus. We only have a certain amount of time to breathe life into to the things in which we were purposed to fulfill. You'll do yourself a great disservice and others not to leave this earth completely empty. Nurture your talents, use your gifts.