The things we like and the things we don't. The people we like and the people we don't. Everyone has a choice when it comes to who they want in their inner circles and who they want to date and so on and so on. But how are we choosing these individuals? Once upon time when I was a little more (a lot more) combative in nature, I surrounded myself with like personalities, but now that I'm older and more mild tempered, I tend to stray from this very personality type which means that I lost a few friends/family members along the way. Majority of the time, there isn't a complete separation from family but time spent together can drastically decrease when lifestyles and personalities conflict.
In essence, it's okay to grow and then outgrow. Whether you choose to keep people in your life who you may have outgrown is totally up to you. The choices that we make are usually predicated on the amount of knowledge that we possess. Assess what you know, pray for wisdom and guidance, and make the best choice for YOU. Blessings.
A Matter of Opinion
Can people in relationships agree to disagree more often in a healthy way? Often time we find ourselves feuding over a matter of opinion, but is the time and energy worth it? Is your point of view so important that everyone has to agree with it or can you still exist peacefully with you on one side of a matter and your partner on the other? When it comes to rearing kids and establishing family principles viewpoints need to line up, but for me, the train can often stop there. Even in relationships, we still need to respect a persons individuality. Most relationships that have endured the test of time will attest to allowing your partner to be who they are freely and without judgement.
In essence, don't expect the one you're with to share every one of your perspectives but learn to appreciate the difference of opinions. You may awaken to a broadened horizon.
Toughing It Out
When life serves you lemons, it's okay to cry like hell and THEN make lemonade. We're often encouraged to be strong by those close to us when we're facing tough times but this advice can be narrow and frankly not very realistic. There's nothing like falling and while you yet lie on the ground, have a group of people yell at you to get up and be strong. Naturally when you fall, you rarely land on a soft surface, you're usually in a complete state of shock, and last but not least, you feel completely exposed which makes it completely acceptable for you to shed a few healthy tears. We've all cried so there is absolutely nothing for you to feel guilty about.
Our tears are a blessing from God. A good cry can lift a heavy burden off of your shoulders in a matter of minutes. It somehow calms you and allows sensibility to appear on the scene and do its work.
So the next time you find yourself experiencing a tough time, allow yourself to feel. If that involves crying, then let the rivers of life flow. The Bible says that God bottles our tears.
Peace and Love
Changing can be one of the most difficult aspects of life. We'd all love traveling this journey, utilizing the excuse that we're 'just this way' and there isn't much that can be done about it. That would definitely be more easy than altering your personality, perspective, and will. Over the past few years I've noticed how much I've changed, from my attitude to my body measurements with one growing in the wrong direction. But the actual results that I can visibly see from changing my attitude took years. Thinking about that particular change caused me to arrive at the realization that change doesn't happen over night. It is truly a process.
So whether you're just now realizing the need to make some changes within your life, please understand that it'll take time and sometimes repeated failure. Me and the scale have been going back in forward for a while now, but I can honestly say that over the years I've incorporated way more natural foods like fruits and vegetables to my diet. So I'm no longer just dieting but actually making some serious lifestyle changes.
In essence, don't be overwhelmingly discouraged when you don't see immediate results. Change sometimes can be a long journey but definitely one worth taking.