The Bible reads in Matthew 6:21, "Where your treasure is, there will your heart be also." People have several different ways of applying this scriptural text to their lives. When I read it this morning the words, 'there will your heart be also' really stuck out.
There are those who treasure and value things such as relationships, family, and friendships to the point where if turmoil is experienced in the aforementioned areas, the individual is deeply affected by it. Not because they're super sensitive, but more so because that's what they treasure most so it touches the very core of them when these areas are out of balance. What better treasure to have, right?
Money and material things may come and go but nothing can be compared to a longstanding and trusting relationship. To have someone who you can depend on no matter what is a feeling next to none. But how safe is it to put that much faith into another person? Different and changing circumstances can sometimes alter a persons behavioral patterns and that may include, how they act and respond to you.
I've discovered over time and I'm sure some you have as well, that the safest place to put your treasure is in the one who never changes and who will always love you no matter what, God. I found out that if we place all of our trust in Him, that we're better equipped and able to handle those moments where our trust is seemingly betrayed or when we're offended by someone close to us. Our expectations are lowered, enabling us to be more forgiving because we're more reliant on God. This will also assist in you being more supportive when you're not getting everything that you need from someone else. It becomes less about how they treated you and more about what's actually taking place their lives that you may be able to help with. You can't place your heartbeat into the hands of everyone, meaning you can't entrust that when people are dealing with their own issues of life, that they'll be there for you at all times. It's kind of selfish and unrealistic. So place those expectations on the all knowing and all seeing. His love is indefinite.
Be encouraged and trust God.
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The Truth About It
I wonder if you can actually will for things to change. You hear so often that it’s all in your mind until you begin to wonder if that’s actually true. Can you change things by merely willing for them to be? I thought that I wanted something that was nothing, that I didn’t realize was nothing until that nothing became something. Some may question how such a thing is even possible. After all, it’s nothing. But I did. I gave my heart to nothing and watched nothing grow so massively that my reality became consumed with the invisible effort of nothing willed into something.
I cried for nothing, I wanted for nothing, I felt nothing. While nothing remained constant I willed harder and got whispers. Some were of things that I longed to hear and others were of promises that thundered although lightly spoken. And before long, nothing turned into something. Hope. Yet nothing was still the reality. Hope can sometimes have a crippling effect on one’s perception. You begin to see things as you want versus how they truly are.
Days then months began to go by with my thoughts yet willing me into a place that became home. I lived there and there is where I kept my most prized possessions. I housed my hopes, dreams, comfort, emotions, happiness, and peace there. All accessible to be picked through and used as pleased. I never realized how much space that nothing could take up.
After a while, my home got burglarized but there was no evidence of forced entry. No door unhinged. No windows broken. But all of my prized possessions were gone. They’d been used up until the point that I felt nothing.
After almost two years, I thought that I saw a glimpse of the invader…. but maybe it was nothing.
WRITTEN BY: Davina Sims
You're For Someone, Just Not For Me
One of the hardest things in the world to do is tell someone who you've gotten to know romantically, that you really can't see a future with them. Over a duration of time spent together you may see a lot of great qualities in the person but you just can't seem to envision a future. But instead of accepting that it may be time to call it quits, you stay. And where certain softer emotions once lied now reside resentment and regret. So what is the best way to walk away from a relationship after you discover that there's no hope for a future?
In my own experience as well as a few other friends, prolonging the time in which you reveal your true feelings can be devastating and create even more problems for both parties involved. First, you have a person whose feelings are continuously growing and at the same time so is your confusion which may cause you to push off the evitable. You begin to try and convince yourself that maybe that person can be more, when you know within your heart that it's most likely not the case. Secondly, more commitments may become apparent causing a clean break away to be less attainable. While you're planning your exit, for those sexually involved, a surprise pregnancy may occur. It happens more than you may think. Who then can tell someone, 'Sorry, but I was really planning on breaking this off. Peace out!' Not so likely to happen. Now, instead of being all free and clear of the person, you have to figure out how to function as parents in a drowning relationship.
It's better to just be sure first and then to follow up with honesty. Honesty is usually the hardest road to take but yields the best return in the end.
There are some who actually tell the person straight away that they're no longer interested in pursuing anything further, but mess up when they try to remain an immediate part of the persons life. This is sometimes the start of that painful circumstance that many label as being 'friends with benefits'. Emotions are still strong so neither party is able to completely control themselves and soon jealously becomes a factor. Jealousy usually will stem from one person or both seeing slight potential in someone else. And often times the rejected party tends to believe that with some alterations, whether physical or internal, that they can possibly persuade the other person to commit once again. Now there may not be any intention there to hurt the rejected person, but one should be very mindful of the fact that that's usually the outcome so STAY CLEAR! If you're done with someone, be done or at least allow an appropriate amount of time for healing to take place on both sides.
There's no rule book on how not to break someone's heart when trying to absolve a relationship but there are ways to do it that will alleviate a pattern of hurt. If you're in a relationship that you consider to be going nowhere, remember to not base your decision to stay on the notion that you may not find anyone better. In the end, you'll only end up wasting your time as well the other person's when there's a chance that you both can be your happiest with someone besides each other. Look at your situation honestly and then make a choice and stick with it.
I hope this helped someone and if you have any additional advice for someone that may be experiencing this, please leave your comment below.
I LIKE MY JOB BUT NOT MY COWORKERS
How often have you dealt with this? You hope and pray for better employment and a few months into your breakthrough, hell breaks loose. But the intensity and ill feelings didn't come from your job in itself, it came from dealing with disgruntle coworkers. Job anxiety would decrease dramatically if everyone within the same workforce actually got along, but let's face facts, it didn't happen with school peers and it won't happen as an adult. Think about it. Those same kids grow up to be adults that enter the workforce at the same time that you do. A cringe worthy thought once you consider all of the people that you horribly disliked throughout your school days.
There are different kinds of coworkers that can make a work environment feel like a nightmare.
The bullying coworker is one who usually have been there for certain duration of time. They have established a personal rapport with management and often times seek to take advantage of that by displaying a certain level of intimidation. They assume security because of the longevity of their employment, although life teaches us that nothing built on sand usually last.
The gossiping coworker. This individual makes their business to know everybody else's. They constantly find themselves in the middle of office drama and will hide their hands to avoid blame. Gossipers will at first sight, come off as very friendly before gathering just enough information to spread to other coworkers. The victim of slander doesn't even have to be a person guilty of offense. People who find fulfillment in destroying the characters of others are usually aiming to shine a light on the flaws of others in attempt to deflect that same light from shining their way. Be careful who you tell your business to.
The dependent coworker will often shift their responsibility to others. They build just enough of a bond to avoid being called a user when in actuality, that is exactly what they are. There will always be an excuse as to why they're unable to complete assignments. This often takes place on team assignments where blame is hard to pend and that's when management needs to be involved.
The sexually driven coworker. The most uncomfortable to address or report. Some people will use their place of employment like a nightclub, in hopes of hooking up. The problem with this is it makes for an unprofessional work environment for everyone, Feelings and emotions get involved and the party who no longer wants to be apart of whatever has been established, usually gets it worse. People become disgruntle and more than just emotions become unsecure, financial stability does as well. In some cases, a coworker just may have a slight attraction to another person and when the feelings aren't reciprocated, will create an uncomfortable work environment.
In one way or another, we can all identity with the aforementioned coworkers whether we've been one or if we've just encountered one. The question is how do you deal with them? A level head is a good place to start. We become so upset sometimes when dealing with people that we barely know and have no desire to know, that our first reaction is usually anger. But when you're angry, it makes it nearly impossible to the approach the situation logically. With a level head, evaluate the situation and decipher the best approach. All can be dealt with by expressing your concerns directly with the individual and with no result, next level management or HR. Sometimes it may just involve you being the bigger person and staying clear of those with who display ill traits.
One thing particularly that many people don't pay attention to is that these people can sometimes just be a huge distraction. Think about the influence that you could be having at your job or the higher position that could possibly be attained. Let that be your focus and your motivation. Allow no one to be so much of a discomfort that you neglect your own goals, values, and peace of mind.
I hope this helped someone.