In relationships, individuals bring separate everything to the table. Separate lifestyles, finances, values, and sometimes even beliefs. But at what point do indifferences become a stumbling block to the growth of a relationship? Can two people actually have a fulfilled, functional relationship when so many vital differences are at play?
Some may agree that opposites attract but I believe that notion applies best when considering personality types. Because when it comes down to it, many relationships tend to falter when too many aspects of their separate lives can't be conjoin. Consider, for instance, dating someone who likes to live beyond their means. Who doesn't value their money or see the importance in saving. A prudent person whose had to work hard for everything they own more than likely won't be able to coexist with the aforementioned. They'll constantly be at odds when each party continues making choices based on the established values that were already set in place prior to the beginning of the relationship. Just imagine saving $40,000 to put down on a house and you've been exclusively dating a person whose been spending non stop frivolously, neglecting their financial responsibilities. You sit down and discuss building a future together and discover that Discover is owed that $40,000 before any bank will consider financing your mortgage. Talk about a blow and a let down. You now have the fiscally responsible one feeling remorseful and discontent and the other feeling despondent for disappointing them and dropping the ball, which unfortunately in the case of many, causes that person to spend even more. Sometimes the easiest way that people deal with debt is by ignoring it and not dealing with it at all. This is never a good thing.
When considering lifestyle, values, and beliefs, you must not ignore the differences to avoid confrontation because in one form or another, it's inevitable. It's important to be transparent when it comes to your beliefs and equally important not to hide any aspects of who you truly are. Why spend the rest of your life pretending while the other person lives comfortably within their own skin. I've observed that many Christians aren't really open about abstaining from intercourse until marriage because they're afraid that it's played out, but can your faith really be 'played out?' Be honest, be open, you never know how your perspectives may influence someone else.
If you're currently getting to know someone or even if you've been together for a duration of time, consider discussing your differences. Never assume that over time the other person will change or bend their will. After all, communication is the lifeline of any relationship.