I LIKE MY JOB BUT NOT MY COWORKERS
How often have you dealt with this? You hope and pray for better employment and a few months into your breakthrough, hell breaks loose. But the intensity and ill feelings didn't come from your job in itself, it came from dealing with disgruntle coworkers. Job anxiety would decrease dramatically if everyone within the same workforce actually got along, but let's face facts, it didn't happen with school peers and it won't happen as an adult. Think about it. Those same kids grow up to be adults that enter the workforce at the same time that you do. A cringe worthy thought once you consider all of the people that you horribly disliked throughout your school days.
There are different kinds of coworkers that can make a work environment feel like a nightmare.
The bullying coworker is one who usually have been there for certain duration of time. They have established a personal rapport with management and often times seek to take advantage of that by displaying a certain level of intimidation. They assume security because of the longevity of their employment, although life teaches us that nothing built on sand usually last.
The gossiping coworker. This individual makes their business to know everybody else's. They constantly find themselves in the middle of office drama and will hide their hands to avoid blame. Gossipers will at first sight, come off as very friendly before gathering just enough information to spread to other coworkers. The victim of slander doesn't even have to be a person guilty of offense. People who find fulfillment in destroying the characters of others are usually aiming to shine a light on the flaws of others in attempt to deflect that same light from shining their way. Be careful who you tell your business to.
The dependent coworker will often shift their responsibility to others. They build just enough of a bond to avoid being called a user when in actuality, that is exactly what they are. There will always be an excuse as to why they're unable to complete assignments. This often takes place on team assignments where blame is hard to pend and that's when management needs to be involved.
The sexually driven coworker. The most uncomfortable to address or report. Some people will use their place of employment like a nightclub, in hopes of hooking up. The problem with this is it makes for an unprofessional work environment for everyone, Feelings and emotions get involved and the party who no longer wants to be apart of whatever has been established, usually gets it worse. People become disgruntle and more than just emotions become unsecure, financial stability does as well. In some cases, a coworker just may have a slight attraction to another person and when the feelings aren't reciprocated, will create an uncomfortable work environment.
In one way or another, we can all identity with the aforementioned coworkers whether we've been one or if we've just encountered one. The question is how do you deal with them? A level head is a good place to start. We become so upset sometimes when dealing with people that we barely know and have no desire to know, that our first reaction is usually anger. But when you're angry, it makes it nearly impossible to the approach the situation logically. With a level head, evaluate the situation and decipher the best approach. All can be dealt with by expressing your concerns directly with the individual and with no result, next level management or HR. Sometimes it may just involve you being the bigger person and staying clear of those with who display ill traits.
One thing particularly that many people don't pay attention to is that these people can sometimes just be a huge distraction. Think about the influence that you could be having at your job or the higher position that could possibly be attained. Let that be your focus and your motivation. Allow no one to be so much of a discomfort that you neglect your own goals, values, and peace of mind.
I hope this helped someone.