Have you ever found yourself lying in bed, and then you remember how your significant other has been holding on to their phone like a third hand? Your mind starts to wander and soon after, your fingers follow. We've all been guilty at some point or another of being the "snooper." It's in our nature and it's totally fine...IF YOU DON'T GET CAUGHT!!! Unlike most of you, I'm pretty horrible at it. I can recall rummaging through the phone of a guy I once dated on several different occasions and each time that I did it, I would always bring up the information weeks later in the form of a question. This usually resulted in a fifteen minute interrogation that ended with, "How do you know this, did you go through my phone or something?" Of course, my answer was always, "No". Guys have a way of making you feel worse about invading their privacy than the actual condemning evidence that's being brought against them. So I guess the question is, is it really all that bad to go through your significant other's phone?
I guess what it all boils down to is trust. You can love someone, trust someone, and still lie to them by way of omission. By that, I mean, if you're still conversing with an ex, you're more than likely not going to reveal that to the person that you're currently in a relationship with. So without you even realizing, your behavior begins to change. Where you would at one time, leave your phone around visibly, you now keep it in your pocket. Subtle, but believe me, if it isn't your norm, your partner will know. After some time of noticing these little changes in behavior curiosity begins to spark. What happens next is usually what happened to me. While my guy was sleeping, I snuck and got his phone and walked speedily from the room hoping not to awaken him with the bright screen light. Unfortunately for me, that night he was being a light sleeper. When I heard his footsteps I quickly threw the phone to floor and ran over to the patio window and pretended like I couldn't access it. He walked up behind me and simply asked, "Where is my phone?" I shrugged my shoulders and told him that it was on the floor and that I couldn't get into it, although I'd discovered his passcode previously. The rest of the evening was so uncomfortable and I could barely sleep because I was sooooo embarrassed. Sigh. You see what having a lack of trust can do to a person?
Many will argue that if you trust someone then there's no need to go through the other persons phone and others will argue that if you have nothing to hide, then you shouldn't have a problem with it. Let's be honest, anyone would be agitated if they found you rummaging through their phone. I mean, like don't you have one? So, if you're doing it, there has to be something that you're looking for.
If you're with someone and you start to get a weird vibe, confront them first. You never know how they'll respond. You may just get the truth. However, depending on how much you have invested, if you still feel as though you're being lied to, then snoop away. Just DON'T GET CAUGHT!!! Only kidding.