Have you ever heard the saying, "What you see is what you get?" Now count how many times that saying couldn't be furthest from the truth because what we see is often only an illusion of what's desired but just not yet, or potentially never, acquired. Existing under this kind of delusion is so common because it seems easiest, or so we think. The difficulty comes into play when we never actually give ourselves the opportunity to develop and we end up working on the outside and leaving is with very little intrinsic value. It's actually a lot of work when you take into consideration the amount of effort that goes into pretending to be something that you're not. So the question is, why do we spend so much of our resources working to perfect what's on the surface versus developing what's on the inside.
Everyone, for the most part, had some knowledge of what they wanted to be upon reaching adulthood.
I find it most interesting that after college, a large portion of people live as though they've reached that place without actually reaching that place. You see the images flashed across the television screen and displayed on the cover of magazines and the imagery reminds you of a place where you want to be, so you do what's necessary or easier to do, which is to mock and play adult pretend. We get into credit card debt, not because we're motivated to help back a designer who contributes 70 percent of their profits to our dear charity, but because it satisfies the illusion. We purchase fancy cars that we can't afford to upkeep because we're living within a system that tells us that we haven't made it until we're able to afford the more advanced version of things we wanted in your adolescence.
I can remember a time when there were so many hair growth products on the market. Now, what's mostly bought is weave. We'd rather give the illusion that we're eating the right amount of nutrients to sustain a healthy head of hair than to actually eat healthy to sustain a healthy head of hair. We'll give the illusion of having a small waistline by wearing girdles, rather than eating right and exercising and actually getting a smaller waistline.
Our goal to satisfy what others may think of us can also greatly cloud judgment. Isn't that how many get sucked into the illegal narcotics game? You see the cars, clothing, and houses and get an immediate idea as to how to obtain it quickly, with as little effort as possible but consider this. Would you rather make 9 dollars an hour at 16 or 9 dollars an hour as an adult after serving a 10 year prison sentence?
I once wished for a lot. I wanted to have a certain level of understanding and intelligence but rarely read. I wanted to maintain my size 6 frame but stopped working out. I wanted to perfect my gifts and talents but neglected to put the proper work and time into them. So I often gave people the illusion that I knew more than what I actually knew, I wore bigger clothes to make myself appear smaller and I impressed people by offering a mere fraction of what my gifts and talents could produce. We all may be in one form or another, guilty of pretending to be something that we truly aren't but the best way to actually become it is by forgetting about impressing people and doing the work within yourself and for yourself. Without the extra effort, what's truly underneath will begin to surface naturally. You may even begin to weed out all of the pretenders in your life, making room for more genuine and healthy relationships.